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First, some thoughts on infertility and things fertile people on BOTH sides of the choice aisle should know about infertility. (Because almost everything the media has ever told you about infertility was wrong.)
So if you're not infertile, stop explaining to infertile people how we should live their lives and quit demonizing our private #choices.
@AnaMardoll I guess most people don't realize that it costs tens of thousands of dollars to adopt. Fertility treatments are much cheaper...
Yeah, my mom kept foster babies and I watched the process so many times. It is HARD, and I couldn't do it. @eliza_evans
It's a new way to shame women. "You're not strong enough to adopt? Then you're a BAD WOMAN." @eliza_evans
Fertile people sometimes assume that you can just roll up to the hospital and order a half dozen babies. @eliza_evans
@AnaMardoll it goes back to women being worthless if they don't raise children. We're supposed to do anything at any cost to be moms.
Right. And if you don't have all the money and all the spoons, then clearly you hate children after all. @eliza_evans
That's how every white infertile person who doesn't adopt a child of color is secretly racist. INSTITUTIONALIZED HURDLES? NO. @eliza_evans
Because tasking individuals with solving institutionalized problems is always a good idea. @eliza_evans
@AnaMardoll my husband and I started the foster-to-adopt certification and had to stop based largely on how arduous it was @eliza_evans
I've known one infertile couple who were turned down for disabilities that *I* have. That was enough for me. @desjardins @eliza_evans
But I'm sure the local agency in my corner of Texas wouldn't care about me being a fat disabled Wiccan. LOL. @desjardins @eliza_evans
@eliza_evans The vetting process is really invasive. I'm 100% for protecting kids from bad people but it was too much to take. @AnaMardoll
Right, there's this (understandable) tension between finding good homes and a need for privacy. @desjardins @eliza_evans
To just assume (as some do) that people who can't do that must have racism/ableism/special snowflakism is wrong. @desjardins @eliza_evans
@AnaMardoll @desjardins @eliza_evans a social worker friend told me not to bother, I'd pass everything & have a good med report & be denied.
@AnaMardoll @desjardins @eliza_evans because of my weight. Not my health, just the number on the scale.
I'm "pre-diabetic", or something, merely because I'm fat. Fuuuck. :-( @amaditalks @desjardins @eliza_evans
I had a dermatologist say that the "color of my skin" told her I was genetically disposed to diabetes. @amaditalks @desjardins @eliza_evans
We have NO diabetics in the family. Lots of fat people, though! @amaditalks @desjardins @eliza_evans
There's a lot of variables. Private vs. public makes a difference, for example. @eliza_evans @amaditalks @desjardins
Second: The pro-life position that life begins at fertilization and that an embryo is the same as a fully-born baby is very problematic to push onto someone who has been through IVF (like me!). Credit where credit is very much due: the "100 embryos in a jar" question came from Amadi of @amaditalks, who is always amazing.
For the record, I didn't lose 30 "babies" and you don't get to impose that framing on me. MY experiences are MINE.(4) anamardoll.com/2013/01/decons…
Occasionally they'll grant me my 30 BAYBEES IN HEAVEN. Before vanishing rather than dealing with my follow-up question. @hswindell
The pro-life people I knew from childhood insisted they grow up. Which is CREEPY. @DeekyMD @hswindell
Addendum: Creepy to ME. I understand why some people find the thought comforting. I do not, but that's just me. @DeekyMD @hswindell
The mentality being that I'll get to heaven & meet my 30 children. All of them named by Jesus, I guess. @DeekyMD @hswindell
@AnaMardoll there are a lot of embryos in heaven then. all those fertilized eggs that never attach that women never even know about... :/
Yep. And you know Jesus gives them crappy names, just to be a jerk. "Hi, Mom! My name is Poopsonhead!" @hswindell
@AnaMardoll @hswindell Are they still babies when you get there? Or have they aged concurrently? If so, who raised them? Changed diapers?
They age instantly when they get to heaven. They have NO childhood and NO experience of growing up. NEXT! @DeekyMD @hswindell
@AnaMardoll @DeekyMD @hswindell There is so much to read into that. The invisibility of childhood needs & (usu) mothers' work to fill them.
27, I think. (LOL, it's supposed to just be a generic Full Grown To Ideal Platonic Adulthood age.) @DeekyMD @hswindell
Pro-lifers are mostly evangelical protestants who don't believe in purgatory. NEXT! #ConfessionsFromEvangelicalChildhood @hswindell @DeekyMD
That's correct. All the Catholics I personally know in Texas are Catholics for Choice. Note the "personally". @NFRAggie @hswindell @DeekyMD
~@AnaMardoll @DeekyMD @hswindell I think it would be pretty unsettling to meet non-implanted embryos at any point in time. At least for me.
It would seriously freak me the fuck out. Heaven in general does, though. #GiveMeSummerlandInstead @potsherds @DeekyMD @hswindell
They are imbued with full knowledge of King James English because that's how the Bible was written. NEXT! @DeekyMD @potsherds @hswindell
@AnaMardoll @DeekyMD I think it's these kinds of conversations that turned me off the whole idea of heaven.
@AnaMardoll @hswindell What if the mother dies at 24? She shows up in heaven and her embryo babies are old than her?
Yes, that is correct. But she becomes 27 and a half with them, so they're technically the same age. NEXT! @DeekyMD @hswindell
@AnaMardoll to be frank, I'm waiting on them to go after infertility treatments an embryo storage. I'm cynical though.
Oh, no, they already are going after IVF in order to control women. See the #RaptureReady quote here: anamardoll.com/2013/01/decons… @drdonnaATX
@AnaMardoll @hswindell If abortion instantly sends souls to heaven, guaranteed, shouldn't Christians be for as many abortions as possible?
I've actually seen that argument, that it saves souls instead of (potentially) losing them to sin later. @FatWanderer @hswindell
(TW) (11) And when anti-choicers appropriate my grief for their ideology which would KILL me (because #disability), then I get angry.
Third: It's time to talk about Senator Lucio and his repeated and hostile appropriation of the lives, bodies, and stories of infertile women and adoptive parents.
(7) Now Lucio has filed SB42, which FORCES women to take an "adoption class" before they can access legal abortion. legis.state.tx.us/tlodocs/832/bi…
Free pass for religion! imagine. MT @AnaMardoll the pushback was that no, [Lucio]'s just a really devout guy.
@NurfHurter @AnaMardoll Of course there'd be no free pass at all if he were Muslim/Hindu/Buddhist/Shinto/Wiccan/Pagan...
Srsly. I kept fantasizing that one of the citizen testimonies would break out the paganism and JAWS WOULD DROP. @Froborr @NurfHurter
@AnaMardoll Lucio gave such a sermon on filibuster night that I thought it was a tent revival. He clarified what the bill was really about.
Yeah, it was seriously gross. I mean, I joked that he was "stealth filibustering" but that was me trying to cope. It was awful. @bleu_ruby
Fourth: We also need to talk about how the mainstream media (MSM) is aiding and abetting this narrative that people who are appropriating the lives and bodies of others for their agenda just rilly-rilly love baybees.
TX wants? Senator Lucio wants RT @zellieimani: Texas wants women seeking abortions to take adoption classes first pulse.me/s/oJnP9
@scATX @zellieimani @sarablackthorne And I bet TX has a robust, humane adoption support network in place for birth parents, right? (cough)
Wish the media was pointing out the restrictive time window. This is about blocking access, not about adoption. @scATX @zellieimani
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